Muscle Memory

If anyone can tell me how to distance myself from my emotions, please let me know. I have no idea how to do that anymore. I used to be so good at dating and knowing how to read men, now I don't have a clue. The muscle for that must have gone dormant. I feel so confused about my emotional life but I'm moving forward, one foot in front of the other. Why do I feel like I'm part of some 12 step program? I'm sure I'll figure it out but right now I'm just confused. It's dangerous when I'm confused. I tend to make bad decisions. I do learn more from my mistakes but I don't want to leave collateral damage. Again with the confusion, I am officially a mess.